It’s often the case that we’re not ready for what we think we should already have or for where we think we should already be. That’s true because we have minds and our minds are often way out ahead of where we are (when they’re not mired somewhere behind us in the mud of the past).
Because we have minds – and because they are very good at what they do – when I say, “Two steps forward…” you almost always think, “and one step back,” because that’s the idiom: Two steps forward and one step back… often said with more than a touch of sarcasm, irony, or genuine frustration.
But here’s the thing, that one step back? It’s useful; it serves a purpose. It serves a purpose precisely because we are often so busy plowing ahead, pursuing our goals, chasing our dreams, that we don’t’ have a really good feel for what we are actually doing, for where we actually are.
You may at some time have heard yourself say, “If I had only known then what I know now.” Consider rephrasing that sentence to, “If I had only been paying more attention.” That’s what the one step back is for: to get you to pay attention. It’s trying to point out that something in your trajectory is/was off. Hindsight may well be 20/20 but how much efficient it would be if you could capture that 20/20 in the now moment, saving you time, possibly money, and who knows what all else.
So, until you can get that you need to be fully present in every moment of your life, at least don’t beat yourself up for the one step back you keep having to take, and use that opportunity to re-frame your position in relation to where you thought you were going.
One step at a time.